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ADD's Adventures!
4:19 PM on Jun. 30, 2009

What can I say about the ADDventures of ADHD. Sometimes I feel that ADD is really "spelled" wrong! It is really DAA. Sometimes I feel so not with it! It would be one thing if I did not know I did not "get it" at times! However, I find that to make up for the DAA syndrome of what I have, I find that there are windows of -- well am I arrogant if I were to say -- windows of "brilliance" when the light seems to go on and I think of things that are -- yes -- unusual, but I can often creatively put two things together that perhaps most would not think of putting together and the result is awesome! I am not talking about putting chocolate on a hot dog or butter beans in my morning cereal (actually that might be good). I know to some this may not make any sense, but perhaps for some it might make perfect sense!

Anyway, as I grow older I find that I am more and more scatter brained, but I have to give myself more and more grace, and hope that others will do that as well. Certainly God has lots of grace for me even when others don't.

Thanks for "listening" I hope at least some of my ramblings will be helpful to someone!

Sincerely yours,

Gary



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Comments (5)
Melissa - 8:12 AM on Jul. 6, 2009  [ message ]
Kerstan- I just wanted to tell you what you wrote is beautiful!
Kerstan - 11:51 AM on Jul. 2, 2009  [ message ]
I understand about the struggling. The only way to stop - is to stop. For me, the struggling started to ease up when I started to work toward accepting who I am and what that means to me and how being honest with myself affects those around me. It's been a very scary process to go through, but well worth the effort. Once you have begun to make the committment to learn all you can about who you are(how does ADHD manifest its self in your life through your thoughts, feelings and behaviours), you will begin to see how you can start to take charge of those qualities that make you unique. That is why I'm so committed to re-defining ADHD as being a Gift and not a disease. It does take time, but what better way to spend your time than getting to know who you really are and how you can embrace all those things that make you an individual. I started this process only a short time ago. It has been very intense at times, but I'm already starting to experience the release from other's expectations as well as my own in those areas that have been a lot of work for me. I'm discovering other areas that I find very enjoyable and easy to work in. For me, the writing, composing music, sculpting etc. have been pushed to the background of life for many years because I and others percieved them to be not as worthy of my time. However, I'm finding now that these areas are my strengths and a feeling of (like you said earlier) brilliance is being experienced. So, the question becomes for all of us at some point or another - what would you like to be experiencing in your life - struggling to be something that does not come easily, or floating with ease in something that is like breathing to you? It's hard to let other's as well as our own expectation go so that we can truely embrace who we are and some of us are not able to do this till many years have passed. I encourage you to keep exploring and to face and accept those thing that at this time you may feel are a hinderance(symptoms of ADHD) because once you start to see these negatives as really positives, you will be able to start to move with freedom through life, and the struggling will be over. On the second note regarding using our 'super-powers' to play and entertain ourselves and our ADHD friends; may I suggest picking a topic of interest that you have recently been putting 'the pieces' together in (you know making those far out connections) and share this idea with us. It can be on any topic, just make sure it is in good taste. For instance; I've been studying 'life after 50', and because I love to learn and I love the computer/internet, I'd like to propose that with in a short period of time, say a decade that those over 50 will be very computer literate and will have figured out how to use social networking websites as a way to influence politics and society as a whole and will exert a stronger influence over the young in a way that hasn't been seen ever. Things are changing, we ADHDer's are more than able to keep up, in fact, I predict that it will be ADDer's who will be leading the charge into this new Information Age - were 'age' as we see it now, will not exsist. Since the computer and the internet really does free those of us who have ADHD to be all that we can be. Let me know if you are following my train of thought. Cheers
Rabbik - 12:14 AM on Jul. 2, 2009  [ message ]
Looking forward to reading more. I though summer would slow things down a bit, but it seems that I am running even more directions than before. I don't even see a vacation this year, just too much.
But, I am striving to find time for family in the midst of the madness! Thanks for writing!
gary - 10:00 AM on Jul. 1, 2009  [ message ]
I like the idea, but how would we do it? I so often feel so crazy even though I have lived with adhd for so many many years! I struggle and fight with it and have been moderately successful but it takes so much effort. I would love to find others who struggle in my area with it, but have only found a few! Also, I have found that I am isolated. That is not good. I am trying to find community in my situation. That is what I am praying for.

Thanks for the encouraging words. That is what we all need.

Blessings,

Gary
Kerstan - 7:32 PM on Jun. 30, 2009  [ message ]
Amen to that, Gary! I think that we should start a group for anyone of us who would like to share our 'super-powers' of connect the dots. Oh just to see if 'we' ADDers could really keep up with each other!! Just like when the mathematicians get together to have fun with how far they can take their Math. Get it? What do you say??

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