Hi all that read my blogs,

I never know who clicks and reads cause there are few comments.  Anyway, its time to go back to work and a new year for my daughter, She has great intentions this year and says she realizes how much time has gone by and not much accomplished for her schooling.  It may be that she is growning up and is maturing to a newer level of understanding.  She wants change and help for school.  We will see and hopefully this with be a great new start for her.  The nice thing about school, each year is new and a fresh start after a good summer break helps.  This year I would like to focus on  a right start with helping my daughter or rather supporting her with routine, schedules, and good habits.  I am of course, trying to do this for myself and therefore a role model for my daughter by my actions.  I am trying to include her but, not always my agenda, is her's too. lol.

With a huge amount of new strength, you people that have been following me, will have to agree that really good positive stuff have happened for us, in comparison to my first joining adhd world.  It's fun to reflect on my excuses and wows and to gratefully acknowledge our successes.  September seems to feel like a new year for us since my work and school starts up after the summer break of rest and relaxation (it never works out to be enough, lol).  Anyway, here I am, like some of you other members, with bells on my toes and good intentions.

I will do my deep breathing, slow down to observe my day and be present in my actions.  That's a big chore for anyone to focus on.  And mostly I will try to do my best to let my daughter do her life and offer support through my actions as a role model for her.  Today, I like my plan and it seems to being a good thing for both of us.  NO MORE RESCUES FOR MY LITTLE GIRL!!!!!  She is working out her bagage at her pace and I'm giving her space to succeed.  Its nice to say, I'm here if you really need me.  Oh, we are working on the living from love and not fear aspect of life.  cheers.

Its the accepting of my gifts and expressing kindess to the faults, that has me feeling on top of the world.  Working from a place of love and not fear.  Its being in the present and enjoying each moment, living with a loving heart.  An ahha moment!!!   I knew from lessons to live and let live and now I am finally practicing that notion.  I'm living life that best way I know and open to advancements.  I look for positive thoughts, daily and reach out for like minded people and wow, life is wonderful.  Its all in the attitude!  Keep the positive thoughts and push out any negitive ones by accepting the thought but let it go...   Stay present, live present, positively.

hi,
By joining facebook I have been able to have friends such as Dr. Rory Stern, and many others with their articles to pop up on my home page of facebook. Exciting too, newsletters going to my facebook page and not cluttering up my emails with public information. That allows for more personal contact with webinairs or web calls. Join facebook and be a friend of mine there too, Eliane Snels If you are having trouble finding me just message me and I will request to add you as a friend, but you need to join  facebook. Its a good place for me to watch my daughter's activities.  Teen's seem to tell all on facebook, they are quite social here.

I have been busy learning how to go out and talk to people with tastings about Mona Vie.  The organization has just made some new websites and now a university site to teach distributors about how to be successful.  This is truly an amazing organization. I just love what the juices and now the energy drink does for me.  I will be attending the Honda Toronto Indy Race and will go with a paddock pass to see the Mona Vie # 19 car. Imagine we sponsor a race car.
I would like you to look at the link for the university stuff.  Hopefully I have it right, lol.

Please, go to  http://www.blackdiamonduniversity.com  to see about training and much more, even Black Diamond TV.  This organization is so amazing with its growth.
I don't want you to miss out on the opportunity, remember my distributor # is 1829571.
If you have any questions or want to get together, please message me back.
 
Cheers, Eliane
Keep that positive thought, let the juice work for you, good times are here.
Drink it, Feel it, Share it.

Well, now is the time that all freedom comes to head.  I get to learn all about boundries and how my daughter will try her best to push them.  Its already starting and I still have this work week to finish.  I have great plans for myself this summer and standing strong is on the top of the list.
Don't know if my daughter has passed any subjects this semester?  I will need to wait and see how long she can keep that information secret.

I started my daughter in drumming circles and now it seems to have back fired and she's found out about rave circles.  A little different then I had intended.  How the creativity flows faster then I can keep up.  One thing I find in the gift of my daughter, is her ability to run with an idea.  Her imagination is great and her limits are unlimited.  Only to wait for maturity to kick in and see what wonders she will accomplish. 

I keep a positive attitude and perhaps she will see my strengths.  I pray so much for my daughter's health and her path in life.  I pray that she will duplicate my efforts and perhaps she may progress on that positive road.  Wishing all a wonderful filled summer and cheers to all.  We are at the starting gate...

Hi, anyone that's been reading about me and my experience with the nutritional juice that I've been taking with my daughter, here it is.  My latest update.  I've become a distributor and want to talk to everyone that I meet about how wonderful this juice is for me.  I went to New York City on the week end and had a blast.  Met so many wonderful people.  Learned about the M.O.R.E. project (the charity that this company does- give and take, working cooperatively)  We get the acai berry from Brazil and we give back to Brazil.
My health has improved in so many ways,  physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.  I can't believe how wonderful I feel.  My daughter has also made changes and we are healthier.  Its funny that she can remember to keep the routine of taking her juice and without my reminding her.  A schedule that she is following on her own, wow, great news!!!  If anyone is interested in learning more about this amazing nutritional drink just go to www.monavie.com and please, use my distributor # so I can support you in a wonderful venture!!!  This company is going places fast.  They now have an Indi 500 car, of course the #19 car because there's 19 organic juices in this wonderful nutritional drink.  MONA VIE stands for "the tree of life" when translated into english.  The new hybrid energy drink will be in the USA this month!!!  You can order it from me since I am now a distributor for them, and it will be delivered to your door step, cheers!  Oh, if you have any questions please, ask me and I'm glad to have responses always.

Hi,  I seem to want to understand the forum but would like the instructions in an easy, 123 way.  I will need to read and figure out how it works.  I have made a few entries and then I get lost.  I am not yet comfortable with how it all works.  Anyone willing to direct me in an easy 123 way?  I suggest newcomers to check out the video tutorials - is it there?

Hi, I have been coping articles out of  a newsletter and have been invited to the empowering parents'  facebook page, to become a fan.  I would like to invite anyone interested to join the page also.  Lots of interesting help, you will know him if you have been reading the articles from the group parenting a teen with adhd/add.  This is the url for facebook page.  Hope this is the right link, if not and you are a member of facebook, then just go to empowering parents and join.  www.facebook.com/pages/Empowering-Parents/90154752176
Cheers.

Today, I spoke with one of my daughter's teachers.  Found out that the lying is still in full force.  All I could say to my daughter last night was, don't lie to me.  Her comment was, I'm not.  Well, she is still lying.  I have detached myself so much, that I can only feel sorry for her.  She is playing games that will only hurt herself.  I have tried to explain that its not me that needs an education.  I just want her to tell me the truth.  She is going to do her own thing anyway, no matter what I try to say or do.  I keep looking for improvement but today I'm not feeling hopeful for my little girl.  Just sad.  No more rescues, just providing a safe place that she can flop, when she chooses to come home.  This is hard to watch, as I have to keep living my life and being her role model.  This concept is my strength for all I can do is watch and pray that she will walk a good path eventually. Perhaps my upbringing will kick in and she will revert to all my lessons taught as a young girl, I pray.

I am still deep into the health issues for myself and have let loose of my concerns for my daughter.  Perhaps that will be a good observation for me to see how she is managing.  I am not  checking her daily routines and seem to feel at times, that we are quite apart.  I have been more focused with my health.

The doctor is concerned about my lack of vitamin D.  More appointments and tests to come.  Funny how I am now needing to care for my aging self.  I still worry about my girl but it seems that I am still being forced to keep a distance.  No new news with the therapists, they are working with her but my daughter is still keeping secrets from me.

I have posted a new thread in the forum about happiness under the non adhd related thread.  Check it out and please, make a comment.  I will keep looking for how you keep yourself happy, too.

cheers, eliane.

Well, I've been so wrapped up in my daughter and her progress, it seems that I've been putting up with my own concerns and passing them on as getting older.  I just had the test results for my bone density and have the news that I've got osteoporosis and the doctor wants to know what I've done to make the count so low.  He's the doctor, so now for more tests, I don't know why?   Its a gift from my mother's side of the family.  I have been passed down another gift from the family medical tree.

I went to the dentist for a teeth cleaning and told them about my news.  I got a good check mark for keeping a healthy mouth.  Questions start rolling in about bone loss and my teeth.  It seems that I'm doing something right for my gums.  I am thinking that this nutritional drink,  my newly found juice, may have a part in play.  I really haven't done anything different other then the juice and I like to see my gums healing.  Perhaps, its just because I'm getting the full requirement of fruit intake for the day and my IBS is taken care of by the juice helping with my regularity.  Toxins sitting inside a person's body vs. cleaning daily makes a huge difference to my health.  I am greatful for my newly found treasure.

My daughter has stopped cracking her knuckles and thats a blessing too.  She says that her knuckles don't hurt anymore and find no need to crack them.  All I have to say, that's great and I'm still looking for more observations.  I am finding less ODD and I'm still watching for any other signs of change.  She seems to reason with me lately and not just yell at me, thats good too.

I'm living life on a day to day basis and I've found out, the chest pain is still my broken rib from Nov. 2007.  Expectations with my health, perhaps stress is the cause for the coughing and short breath, its not asthma, that test is good.  Doctor says to look into allergies, well I got some to consider and more observations for me.  I'm still watching for the effects of  the juice.  I'm being told that more healing is to come because of my new nutritional drink (100% organic and its a whole food).  I have lots of positive energy and that's good.

I'm finding the mona vie juice is doing great things for my health.  At first, I noticed physical changes.  I have IBS and now, because of the juice I am experiencing regular BM's.  Its not the most complimentry thing to talk about but its true.  I now am having regular movement through my body and not keeping the toxins in for days at a time.  Its wonderful to feel this part of my life is now normal.  I'm impressed with this part alone, I will continue to take the juice.  I've lost weight and feel light in my walk and movements.  I seem to have less aches in my joints and my feet don't hurt anymore, I can walk all day and still feel great.

I am finding for my mental health and spirit, there are changes also.  I have more energy consistantly throughout the day.  Things don't bother me emotionally, its like a duck that lets water roll off its back.  I don't take things so personally, its just a situation that has happened and I seem to look for solutions for the situation rather then cry with emotion.  I'm getting more things done with less effort.  That's a hard one to explain but, I don't find myself procrastinating and humming about how much work I have to do.  I just feel happier.  I will say that the juice does provide me with the required fruit intake for the day and the acai berry is the medicinal aspect of the juice.  The best part of it -- its 100% organic and is classified as a whole food.  I like the sounds of that for my health.  Please, comment, for I would like to hear your opinion. 

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I am trying a juice that is doing amazing things for me.  Its made up of 19 fruits and the jewel fruit, as they say, is the acai berry.  I have visited many web sites and checked it out.  I found a site -  realhealthanswers that talks about the juice and even Oprah had it on her show.  So, I am taking the juice and have offered it to my daughter.

 I am feeling impatient inside for I am trying to allow time for  my daughter to do her own plan with her mental medical care.  And, because I'm being forced, by not having access to her medical information.  I have thought about the need to care for oneself in all the areas, body, mind and soul.  I thought that I would start with my daughter's body by asking her to take the juice with me.  She started taking the juice last night.  We take 2 oz in the morning and 2oz in the evening.  It is classified as a whole food and is 100% organic.  For that reason alone I am interested in begining the product. 

I will keep writing about the progress in my blog.  This is a new stratagy, for my path, in helping my daughter's well being.  I have a good feeling that this will help us both.  I already see the positive effects it has on me and I've only been taking it for the last two days.  If this only helps her physically, I feel its worth the effort to try.  I know how it makes me feel and that is why I am so excited about this juice.

Its been three weeks  since my daughter has moved back home.  I am working on the "not to engage" technique.  I found it working until a few days ago.  My adhd partner,  has been affected by my new technique.  Its interesting to observe how my actions make contact with all the members in the family. 

I have this thing - my adhders tend to spring demands on me, in the last minutes, just before I'm off to work, when I really can't do anything for them.  A few days ago, my daughter yelled and demanded that I give her the last front door key.  My response was, "You're upstairs, ask your dad for a key".  She has been home for about three weeks now and very busy partying.  It was only now that she realized that I could be away and she would be inconvenienced due to the fact that her dad just got work again and may not be home either, should she want to come home early.  Now, I should, in all fairness, fill you in with some history.

My daughter is forgetful due to her lack of attention.  I realize this and only allow her to have a key to the back door (has cost me large, rekeying and replacing locks).  I also realize that my partner only has one key to the back door (because he too, loses keys).  This situation is because my daughter has lost all the keys we have given her and we have three doors for exiting.  I have asked my partner (the great carpenter)  to do something about the locks and that we are seriously key shy.  I have the master key to two of the doors and no key to the third.  I hold tight to my key!  Now, I don't engage anymore.  I ask and wait but I simply remind them, when they react, that I asked once before and then walk away.  This new technique really gets to both of them.  I don't nag anymore, as they accused me before, or as I like to think, remind them.  I just go on with my business and wait for them to realize the need, in their due time.  This has taken so much frustration away from my plate, yeah!!!!  Natural consequences do come.

I have all rights to not trust my daughter in the house alone and have discussed the reasons why.  This new moving in comes with conditions.  That she be home between 10 and 11 pm, on a school night, then the door is night locked.  This took about a week to establish and I had to bend the time frame; by giving her plenty of time to make the dead line; by having an hour instead of a set time (it started out that I said, "by 10 pm").  I need my sleep for work and will not wait up all night, for her to decide to come home.  And this is a routine that she needs to learn for good habit building and sucess for her working life.  By the way, weekends are free time and no conditions.

I try to have her out for school by 8 am (she has a bus ride to take and thats about how long it takes for her to be on time), and all of us are on time for school/work.  That has been a challenge!  I have chosen to let that battle go because I can't enforce it without being late for work.  It worries me that I can't trust her because of past issues and that, I don't have reason to believe there's much change but this, I need to let go.  I come home at 10:45 am to check all is well. I work close to home and its my first break, that's how I cope with that decission.  It also gives her a chance to show me that I can trust her.  Its taking time but I am seeing progress around the 8 am departure time.

Now, back to the issue.  My daughter was in a rage, yelling and demanding.  I was calm and quiet and simply said that it was her tough luck if her dad didn't have a key for her but I wasn't giving up mine. (besides we haven't worked out the trust issues around having a key)  Well, that didn't go well with my partner.  He was in a rage and freaked out about how I made her upset and I was making her start off the day on a bad foot.  (Of course I was to blame for everything).  I simply said to move his truck because I was leaving for work.  Now this is the interesting part.  I got into my car and started it up waiting for him to move his truck.  Instead, he was yelling and jumping up and down at my car door.  I had locked the door and observed.  He was so mad he banged at my window with his fist.  I was sure that I was going to be covered in glass any moment.  I turned and gave him a look that could kill.  He walked away after yelling some more.  I was calm and just waited for the truck to be moved.  Now, I had no idea what he was yelling but I have some idea of the abusive words that came out of his mouth.  Total disrespect!

I came home at 10:45 am to check the conditions.  I was surprised to see all in order and I phoned my daughter's school.  To my amazement, she was on time for school.  I don't dare to ask questions but I see that my actions are much louder then my words, in spite of all their threats.  I had long standing plans to be with my niece after work and I made sure that I didn't come home until 11 pm.  I arrived to find my partner and daughter sound asleep.  The next morning was quiet and for some reason, they were kind and thoughtful and acted as if nothing happened.  I was cool and reserved and was prepared to make an exit at the first sign of disrespect, but nothing!  I shows me that I need to stand ground and just walk away.  That stratagy is working for now.

 

Hi, just had to write that life today is wonderful.  I am practising not to engage and it looks like its working.  I have also dropped some of my expectations and that's helping.  I will do my parental duties and that's to provide a roof over my daughter's head.  I will show her how strong and good a person I am, for I am her role model.  Everytime she is negative I will respond with a positve remark and walk away.  I think I can do this for awhile.  I pray this will do us better.  I drove her to the therapist appointment so, at least she has begun support for herself.  More bending on my part but hopefully with respect.  The wait is still on, for a new doctor, for her meds but, we will see for what comes next,  its up to her.  Staying positive, eliane!

ODD, I'm dealing with it again, full force.  Its not just the hearing no, that is difficult, its now anything that I say, she opposses.  You can go to the group, on parenting teens to see my release of...  

I don't know what to do when every single thing has to be with a screaming match.  She has the control.  I don't see, as of yet, the benefit of walking away.  I didn't get the help I asked for and I walked away from her total disrespect.  I still had no help!

I have been told to not engage but how do I do this?  Just walk away and she is the ruler and thinks that she can just swear at me and yell and I will walk away.  This is not right, I feel this is bad to walk away.  Yes, there is no fight but what message am I sending now?  All she has to do is wig out and I walk away, good for her, she won.  I need a better plan.  This is more then I can understand.  She is a tyrant and I don't know what to do.

Well, its been 24 hours that my daughter has been back home.  She got kicked out of the girlfriend's house.  She was gone three months.  That mom said to the doctor, my daughter was welcome indefinitely.  I guess three months was an indefinite time for her, lol.  ADHD is not an easy thing to live with especially with ODD attached.  That mom had to learn the hard way, that I was doing my best and my daughter really didn't need her rescue.

I was hoping that my daughter got a few counselling session in before she moved back but, she kept missing sessions, said she forgot.  I am doing this alone again.  Why do I find myself winging it?  I reread my blogs and took note.  I will do this better this time around.  I'm a little wiser and hopefully have learnt some lessons on how to deal with my daughter and all. 

I am going with the "its her walk in life" and now she is seventeen, and hopefully has learnt how to respect us more.  I already have resistance and a little rebellion.  Its only day one and it looks like a long haul to come.  Rules, boundries, respect, trust, truth, so much to work on and where to begin.  I will need to observe and hopefully I can stay calm, peaceful and loving.

I may blog more now that she is home, so please don't be shy, comment, I really could use the support.

Thanks for reading and stay tuned for the news to come.  I may have to change my profile update, time will tell.  Its the one day at a time and perhaps back to one moment at a time.

 

I find that I go through rants at my closest loved ones that are adders.  I don't seem to understand why they act the way they do.  I spoke once before about maybe I'm exposed to so much adhd, that I have the traits, because of my environment.  I am now once again thinking, do I really have adhd or not?  I've decided that I need to hunt down some sites to help me better understand the symptoms of adhd and its characteristics.  I may be an adder but have conditioned myself to think I don't.

I look at the attachments.  My children are so different and my partner is like our daughter.  But, my son is like me, who by the way has a different dad.  Perhaps, all this questioning is just questions and so what.  I've been told that I'm different but don't see why I am.  I'm not really observant of what I do.  I took mindfulness practise to help me with my dying dad.  Stopped the formal practise but periodicly give a stab at it once every so often, mostly when I think I need to.  Anyway, I know that I am obsessive and compulsive, I try not to be a perfectionist.  People tell me that I don't notice things in my environment, and I definitely don't know what I am doing when I react.  Emotions get in my way and not always do I show the right actions for an emotion.  People tell me that I'm angry alot of the time.  Well, I live with a man that is angry all the time, he only knows how to show one emotion and thats anger.  But, I am not angry, I'm frustrated and start to yell.  My dad always yelled when he was frustrated or short tempered.  I talk too loud and some think I yell.  But, that's what I grew up with and I have a partner that only yells or is silent, not all the time, but he has terrible communication skills.  It seems that no one ever hears me until I yell and then they think I'm angry,  NOT, just frustrated.

Today, is yet another hard day.  I will need to work out why I am with my partner and have the courage to make change, if necessary, its been eighteen years that we are together and now my daughter is not at home and perhaps I won't wait for her to come back.  I'll just leave them all, but I don't have the courage to work this out so I just fence sit.  I find that I fence sit most of my life until its too tough and then I am forced to make a change.  Today seems like I'm at one of those forced moments.  How do I cope with a man that has adhd and won't get help.  I'm so frustrated because my letting go of the control I thought I had with my daughter is gone and so is she at least for today.  I know that she will come back home but when that is a good question.  I am always needing patience.

Today I don't want to have patience and today I wish I could really be mad.  They say anger makes room for change and perhaps I could do the plunge and make change, this sounds way too impulsive.  I would have to give up everything that I've worked for all my life, just because I am not coping and want to be able to yell and have someone say that they hear me and really listen.  I guess today I am feeling out of control of my life.  I should be angry that my partner can ruin our finances and I have to just sit and fix it, I should be angry at but don't dare.  Instead I am once again trying to understand why and how to make it all work out okay, at least for me.

Its my theme, be kind to myself and today I don't want to be kind to anyone, anything or anywhere.  I want to be mad and really feel it and really get back my control.

 

I just found an email that a message was on this site for me and it was so sweet to read.  But, I'm not having a good day.  My girl phoned me lastnight, just before my bedtime and asked if I would take her shopping this morning.  I was clear about what time I would want her to call.  I planned to pick her up and have a lovely day with her.  My emotions are not okay at this moment.

Its now more then five hours past and I'm still stupidly waiting.  My self worth is quite low, only because I am hurting.  Its because of the loved ones, I know.  So, I thought that some of you may also be in my state of mind and my remedy is below.

You are just a visitor here, a traveler passing through. Your stay is but short and the moment of your departure unknown. None can live without toil, and a craft that provides your needs is a blessing indeed. But if you toil without rest, fatigue and wearness will overtake you, and you will be denied the joy that comes from labour's end. Speak quietly and kindly and be not forward with either opinions or advice. If you talk much, this will make you deaf to what others say, and you should know that there are few so wise that they cannot learn from others. Be near when help is needed, but far when praise and thanks are being offered. Take small account of might, wealth and fame, for they soon pass and are forgotten. Instead, nurture love within you and and strive to be a friend to all. Truly, compassion is a balm for many wounds. Treasure silence when you find it, and while being mindful of your duties, set time aside, to be alone with yourself. Cast off pretense and self-deception and see yourself as you really are. Despite all appearances, no one is really evil. They are led astray by ignorance. If you ponder this truth always you will offer more light, rather then blame and condemnation. You, no less than all beings have Buddha Nature within. Your essential Mind is pure. Therefore, when defilements cause you to stumble and fall, let not remose nor dark foreboding cast you down. Be of good cheer and with this understanding, summon strength and walk on. Faith is like a lamp and wisdom makes the flame burn bright. Carry this lamp always and in good time the darkness will yield and you will abide in the Light.

Dhammavadaka

My thoughts to help my positive energy stay inside.  Today I need it.

Its been quiet for me this holiday.  My children came by and visited and we all spent Christmas with my mom.  New years was extremely quiet for me due to a cough.  I broke down and started a puffer.  Things are looking better and I can breath, once again.

I am believing in the quiet before the storm.  It is very, very quiet in my world.  Perhaps, its the holidays and by next Monday things will be back to the mad rush of work life and all.  I am only greatful that I am receiving this well needed rest, even though my system isn't quite use to the idea.  Depression wanted to set in but, with positive thoughts, I drove it away.  It was tough to focus on cleaning but, I kept saying to myself that I need to take advantage of this time before I reget not having so...  I got off my but and pushed myself into doing a job well done. 

Its interesting that, with this off time, I've sat at my computer more often then not.  I clicked the site only to see a quiet time of activity.  So, my wishes for a happy holiday and a good new year was important to me.  For there's new members joining I'm sure.  Can't wait for all to return and talk once more.

Happy New Year and may all your wishes come true.  With a positive attitude and patience, I'm sure, a happy person you may be.  All the best!

 

Had a wonderful Christmas.  Invited a couple of friends that don't do Christmas so they could experience our celebration.  All went peacefully with so much fun and we are so full of wonderful foods.  We had a small misshap but with the right attitude all worked out-  what does one do when the meat went bad?  Go vegetarian for the celebration, not a problem!  We had enough other foods to keep on celebrating.  Its all in the attitude of ones perception, I'm learning.

My daughter spend a few days with us and we got along famously.  There was a reality check for my girl.  She has realized that leaving home makes a difference with attitude at Christmas, she's one of the adults now and is treated so.  It was interesting to see how she accepted her new role, as one of the adults, as the young ones opened gifts.  I feel good inside to see how she handled it.  Now, I pray that she was sincere and was able to show true emotion and not a mask..  She was a good cousin helping out the little ones.  We gave her the job of handing out the gifts.

I have a week left in my holidays and I have a horrible virus that has left a cough that just won't go away.  This will be the time for me to recover and rest before its time to go back to work.  I've been going like the energizer bunny and now I will rest before I'm too far gone (Its been stressful trying to stay "up" and strong).  Happy holidays to all and please move safely though the changing weathers of the winter, if you are experiencing the same type of weather we have here.  And if you're in the best of weather, enjoy!  Happy Holidays to all!

 I can only sit on the outside now and watch as she destroys her life.   The police called me, in the middle of the night, on friday, she was in the emergency, again.  She was found on the roadside, incoherent, vomitting and passing out, on the city streets!  I went to the hospital just after they cut her clothes from her, to take her vitals.  She refused to move or remove her clothing so they could examin her, just curled up in a tight ball.  I arrived to find a paramedic telling me that I am in great danager with my child.  She is heading for the street, drugs and prostitution.  The police weren't as bold, they tried to comfort me, instead.  I worry with my hands tied.  This doing nothing is so hard for me.  I show her that I love her and that we are here for her but she is still running. 
I was told to go home by the doctor and I left a message for my daughter to call when she woke up.  The doctor decided to keep her until she was more coherent and would decide whether or not to send her home.  She was released and went to her place to sleep more.  Later, on Saturday it was previously arranged for her to come to us for the day and stay over to help us on Sunday moving my niece.  My daughter called to tell me that she had new plans and would come by in the morning.  Instead, she went to a party and phoned on Sunday morning for us to pick her up because she slept in. 
I looked at my daughter's face and saw how run down and worn she looked.  Its so sad for me to see my daughter falling and there is nothing for me to do but watch.  I pray that, one day soon she will pull out of it.  My little girl is doing ecstasy and drank, which made her sick.  Yesterday, she kept saying that she has caught something and is sick.  She is fooling herself, she is sick from the drugs and drinking.  Oh, I keep trying to believe that all good will come.  All I can do is live my life and do my best and pray that I am doing right.

I look at my girl with investigating eyes.  I try to observe what the drugs are doing to her.  I even tried to point it out.  She's not listening!  My girl is in denial about what she is doing.  Her schooling is not going anywhere.  I get so wound up inside thinking and trying to not think.  How can I, as her mother, just sit and watch her fall?  This makes me feel that I am not doing a good job but, my hands are tided, with the no access to information.  The system is all messed up.  I get the calls but when I get there my little girl has all the power, and she runs.

Sunday afternoon, moving my niece is finished and my daughter has gone back to her place, and I am back home wondering how my girl is doing.  I get to live my life and wait for her to make contact again.  She plans do some of the holidays with us but time will tell.

Today is the day that my son goes for plastic surgery.  Its suppose to be a classic break.  I pray that all goes well.

My son and daughter went to visit my mom this weekend.  Information is still being held from me.  Its tough to detach from it all.  The only thing I can do is stay focused on me.  Keep me strong and positive for times to come.  I'm adjusting to the calm and quiet in my life.  I am enjoying it , so peaceful.  I have to keep the mind set that my daughter wants this and I have no control, so live.

Normally, I would want to fester about whats going on but I am in the quiet before the storm.  Only time will tell.  I am learning the meaning of being mindful and how to remain present in my daily routines.  Another life lesson.

I can't even remember how long ago its been that my daughter has put the "no information" request out there.  What a way to reject me, to send me away?  My daughter wants to see how it is, out in the big world, if she can make it.  She is getting individual therapy and perhaps in another week, I'll be called in for her family counselling sessions.  We will see and time will tell.

I'm alone thinking many thoughts about my daughter and constantly have to push away those thoughts and keep saying, "love not fear", my newest montra.  Its very difficult to know that my daughter is immature, impulsive, and wants to dive out of a safe home into strangers arms.  She thinks that living with a friend and her mom, is living on her own.  I guess that's so.  We will see and time will tell.

I need to focus on my life inorder to survive.  It gets easier if I work on an hour at a time.  I go to work in a very positive environment and make six hours go quickly, being as busy as possible and focused on my work.   I have learnt how to use my hyper focus skills.  Its the very early hours in the morning that I get most my housework done or sit on the computer.  At night, thats hardest, don't feel guilty for living.  My life should go on.  I just do my housely duties and off to bed.  Sleep comes in dribs and drabs.  My eye twitches and I should sleep better.  Rest?  We will see, time will tell.

Well, I'm sitting with my elderly mom, its my turn to watch over her while my sister is away.  We are making application for homecare which is difficult to get without a doctor's refferal.  She has been in hospital for her kidney is failling.  We qualify now for homecare!  Now for the red tape to do its thing and perhaps we will get some support for us with this situation.

Back to my life.  Its been a tough lesson having to face the music and with my hands tied.  A person has taken over my role - now my daughter is living with her friend and her mother.  My son is an adult at twenty-four and will make his own medical choices.  I can only advise him of my thoughts and then its up to him to act. 

It has been a hard year of changes. My thoughts have been to change for the positive and best way I know how to be.  I have made many changes, to the point of having bent too far.  My newest thought is to live and let live, only because that's all I can do.  This will be my next focus and how to change to accomplish such a task.

Its a mind set, an ah ha moment, the realization that I have no control, only myself to work on.  Helpless I could feel but, I am working on the idea that the only constant in life is change.  I will see, with time, changes.  I will work on strengthening me in preparation of whats to come.  Putting out positive thoughts, positive energy, what comes around goes around.

If you have been reading all my blogs and the story has developed you may now comment with your thoughts.  I'd like that!

I thought it fair, to write this entry, to let you interested readers know.  That I think, we are at a turning point and I hope that productive help is on its way.  It is very encouraging to have the healthcare team interested in caring for my daughter again.  Its strange, that in order for her to get help, she had to go to the extremes of a near death experience just to be noticed. 

At this point, I am hopeful that its a turning point for us and better times will come for my daughter's life.

I made a new group today and wanted to erase my other group and blogs.  Its like, I wish I could start all over.  As I read through I changed my mind.  I am in a place that makes me feel like I'm the only person going through this experience.  Is there not someone out there that can relate to what I am dealing with?  How do I cope, what do I do, where's the book that gives me the quick fix answers?  Life is tough at times and I would say this is a tough time for me.  Pease comment and talk with me, thanks.

Well, I don't even know where to begin. 

I wanted this all to stop and now I have my wish and almost too good of a wish.  My daughter has reached her rock bottom?  I got a phone call from a police officer telling me that my daughter is fine but, she is in hospital.  A phone call is good news, at least they weren't at my door.  My reply was, "Does she want to talk to me?"  Then, all came to another level of blocks.  She refused access to me for her information.  I keep thinking how our laws need fixing for the youth.  I am her guardian but she can shut me out and she's not even old enough to vote! 

My daughter tried to jump off a bridge and into a moving subway train.  For her sake, she was lucky that there were people to stop her and the police acted quickly.

My son in haste left his house to go to her.  On his way, without a helmet, rode his bicycle to catch the ferry.  He crashed with another cyclist and thats the next step of my crisis.  I was then going for him, to take to hospital.  After many hours and from one day to the next, we focused on his injury and then onto my daughter.  My son has multiple fractures to the right side of his face and nerve damage.  This will be a long process for healing, for now we are looking at plastic surgery.  I am in the middle of this one and time will tell how he will manage threw all of this.  He's an adult now at 24 and its his struggle, his path, not mine.

In the middle of CT Scans we went to my daughter, where my son is the only person she will speak with and allow access to information.  I have now been given information that she has been admitted  into the child/ adolesence ward.  Maybe someone will help her now!!!!  NO more giving up, please, the system has to stop failing her.  Maybe now they will address her issues and she doesn't have to feel so lost.  Once again I am at a new starting point.  Only thing that I notice, it gets worse and harder for me to begin again.  This time, because my daughter is sixteen, its her fight.  I guess that, at this point of my fight for her, I will hand over the reins to her.  I really tried all these years and now its her fight.

Thanks for all the suggestions and interest you have taken time to let me know your thoughts.  I guess now I don't have a fight and I got what I wished for.

Becareful for what you wish!

I look at myself and simply say.  I promise to walk only my path now.  Ask me again after time has passed.   But my life lesson is:

Float down the river with the flow, don't try to go up stream, against the current.

 

I am working on setting our house rules and was able to sit and talk to my daughter about them.  She is back in the house and seems to follow the rules to the letter.  Too literal  for my liking.  Its like I need to add an amendment each time she twists it to her liking.  Life is better, by the way, I'm learning to be less sensitive - that is easier then trying to detach myself from the whole thing.  I keep trying to look at the big picture and scope for positive actions.  Its all a day at  a time - makes me feel like I'm in a twelve step program.  Confused in what to do or think so, I'm just trying to stay calm and remain present in the moment and worry about our tomorrows.  That's it for now.  Any suggestions if you think I'm off track would help but I think I'm coping.

Well, I was so hype that my daughter wanted to come home.  NOT!!!!   I am such a suckker.  I let her in for one night, in the wee hours of the morning.  I thought she was coming home.  NOT!!!!   Thought this was over and we were going to do okay.  I am so wrong!  Suckker, she just wanted a place to stay and today she's away and on her facebook it says: she's etardily high.  What has my little girl got herself into? 

I'm at a loss for what to do.  I have a daughter that I can't reach and time keeps ticking away.  This has been a struggle for over a year perhaps more than two, actually, most of her life.  I keep finding my daughter drifting farther and farther away.  The problems seem to get bigger.  My help is not reaching her any more.  Its sad to say but I maybe one of those parents that tried but it seems I'm always too late and I can't catchup.  I blame the system and now she's , what,  into street drugs?  Why wouldn't anyone listen or help me when there was time?  Now what do I do?  How do I reach her now?  Time will tell.  I can only pray that she will be okay.  I am at a loss for what to do.

I set up therapy.  Counselling?  I'm back to the old saying:  you can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink.  Perhaps, things will change before the family counselling appointment, next week.  And, what will that do anyway?   I feel so lost for my daughter. 

Well, I had a very bad day yesterday.  I was so ready to beg her to come home.  I wrote in facebook to her and asked her to talk with me.  Late, last night she called and asked to come home.  NOW, I need to keep the rules and be consistant and keep standing up for a good path.  This is such tough work to be there for her but to be strong and firm with my rules.  We will see if the merry-go-round of the in and out of home will be her next more.  I will do everything in my power to stand firm and keep consistant.  This is tough and ideas for me?

 

My daughter left our home and ran around town doing her own thing for a week without a call or any news.  Early Tuesday morning (1am)  she came back home, and we had a talk about rules and respect.  It was time to get up and go to school for 8 am and the rule was she had to be out by eight.  We had to pick her up and put her out.  She left and its been two days now and my daughter is out of our home and where, is the question.  We were told to be strong and no more rescue!  She must follow our house rules inorder to live with us.  Its got to be the toughest thing to kick her out and not know where she went.  The group home wanted her out in June and were going to send her to a shelter.  I should have let them instead of taking her back.  I thought all was going to work out but it doesn't look that way today.  What a path of self destruction she is headed on.  I can only pray that something will happen to make her turn her ways and hopefully not too hard a lesson. 

It goes to show that no matter how hard I had worked this summer to set her up for school this fall- it had to come from her.  One day I will learn the saying    You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.    I will need to let my daughter want to drink, on her own.  This is so tough to do.  I keep wanting to rescue her but I know she needs to work out her struggle and perhaps she will come back. 

 

Hey, I'm sliding and we're going down hill fast.   My daughter is now doing pills.  I can't get close to her because of the influence that her druggy boyfriend has  on her.  I am watching my daughter slide away and I can't follow.   I know this is her struggle but how can I help?  I did so much over the summer to help her and thought we had a good start towards a better path.  I know its only a few days but I see the slide and I don't know how to help.  She is only sixteen and I have no power to stop her or even get her to safety.   Our laws suck and she is too young to have this freedom and I can't put a hault to her path of distruction.  I know my daughter has ADHD and this site if for that but, I think there is no help at this moment for her, I am feeling abandoned by the system and my daughter is sliding away faster and faster as the days go by. 

We need change for our kids sake!!!!!   

What can I do, just sit and watch her go down?

Well, I'm back to work and having a terrible time getting into a routine.  My daughter is still in summer, party mode and trying to attend school too.  I can see this is going to be a rough path.  I prayed for a change and somehow I'm haulted.  I had all kinds of energy for a short bit but now I've got a cold and I'm feeling a wreck.  Still working on the "house rules". 

It's great making the rules but try to enforce them.  Only plan I have now is the Dr. Tom Phalen's suggestion, to follow our rules or get out.  I can't fight the opposition any more.  I need peace and my mental health is too important to me.  If I'm not healthy then how can I help.  So, this girl is heading straight out my door.  Her father has given her the choice follow the rules or leave and this time no return. 

When my daughter signed herself into the group home and was there for the spring, it was the most peaceful time I've had in years.  Now, she's back and I fear that I just don't have the strength for the teen fight.

Well, enough of feeling lost and nowhere to go.  If I had money to do this research, no problem.  There are so many bits of advertizing for ideas that people have, but they want money.   My problem is I have no money for the words, tapes, videos.  That is why I feel a site like this is a blessing for me.  To actually talk with others that are working through simular issues and brainstorm ideas.  I had placed all my funds and now debt for medication and got haulted.  I felt, such effort for so little time of treatment!  Its hard to pick a path and go until there's a hole, only to find myself looking for a new path.  Then, I worry about time, it keeps on ticking.  By the time I find a solution, it'll be past the time and no return.  How gloom!  Not really, I can't be negative, only positive!  I'm on my new path with open eyes and ears, hopefully. 

Just to recap what I have learned in my last week of disapointments.  I have the power to make change for me,   For every action is a reaction.  I will try the path of change for me and hopefully a good reaction.

I started a group to help me walk a path for solutions to my problem.  If you would like to join in and help,we could go down that path towards success and hopefully no holes to fall into.  It would be so nice to find a solution and not to have to walk a new path.  Here goes, my getting off the starting line and a good race to success.

 

Had the family counselling meeting with the youth agency that works with my daughter.  This week, the family counseller called a parent's meeting for us to recap  the events of the last few months and work out a new plan of action. 

In conclusion, we came to these ideas. 

1.  My beloved one, and I are to discuss the rules for my daughter and then, present them to her. 

2.  We will need to begin by making a statement to our daughter that:      "This is our home and if she wants to live with us, she will need to follow our rules or leave."  (We are suppose to stand united)

3.  If, she leaves and wishes to come back- the door is open, with welcoming arms, when she is prepared to comply.

And we are to make our own rules that we want to follow.  Not anyone elses, our own living rules.  I have written our three basic living rules in one of my blogs.  But, it is said that, we need clear family rules.  I think, for all of us?  The adults make the rules and the teen follows them?  What a consideration!

If you would want to give any input, I'm brainstorming!  She has adhd but she is not disabled, she knows what she is doing?  This is where I get to let go and let her make a choice for her life.  (Hey Tessa, is this the change?)   I ran away to regroup myself first, then some counselling and now the parent/teen talk is to come.  I think, I could say, "I'm making more progress!"  Again one step forward...

 

I am starting to blog and it feels like a diary.  I hope this is right? 

You would have gotten the news in my last blog about how we are starting, once again, at a new point.  Back to no support.  I can't imagine how I will find the next step but, I will keep hoping that something good happens.  It always feels that I'm stepping forward one step only to find myself having to step back a few. 

What does one do when everything is too much and you want to stop and get off.  I am at that point and am stuck.  I ran away for a couple of days to just have a breakf, as I figure, to regroup.  While I was gone my daughter was also gone.  By the looks of the house, we all ran away.  I have come back and don't even know what to do. 

Being in limbo is difficult.  This is where I get to sit with my emotions and stay quiet.  This is not me but my daughter and I am trying to realize how to support without owning her issues in life. I am guessing as a mom we get to learn how to seperate from our teens so one can make mistakes and learn the meaning of failure and success.  This is where I get to see her fall and also let her get up on her own.

I am trying to be patient for the school year to start next week.  My daughter has a new alternative school to attend.  This is a new start for her in retreaving her grades that she has lost over the past two years.  I will try to be patient and hope that something good starts for her.

I have been thinking about what the doctor said to us on the topic of substance abuse.  I would hate to keep pushing for adhd meds for my daughter if she has substance abuse issues.  I know that she indulges in the smoking of cigerettes and cannabis and occasionally has a drink (how much I don't know but she says doesn't really likes the drink).  Now, there are alot of opions on the topic but this is a reality I am having to look at.  Does my child really have issues or is it the teen experiment stage.  I can remember my teen years but I also know that her father had substance abuse issues that he had to cope with.  Do people with adhd self medicate because there is no meds or do they self medicate because it is their way to cope.  I'm not sure of an answer but here I am in limbo stage and not sure where to go.  Its been recommended for us to go for addiction counselling for my daughter.  My daughter is angry with this and says that she has no substance abuse issues.  She tells me to open my eyes and see that the teens of today smoke.

After having spoken with my daughter I have found out that her smoking habit has been from grade six.(that's when we had her diagnoised)  I can't believe that I have been unaware of this.  Anyway, I know now and look at some questions.  Could I have mistaken her smoking for adhd symptoms?  This is a new thought I am questioning.  Could someone with adhd tell me if this is possible?  Or, does she have adhd and smoking is her way of coping?  I am in limbo and its difficult for me to see the reality of our world.  What do I do now?

 

Well, I got the medical kick in the teeth once again.  I am getting so fedup with the medical field.  How can it be so difficult to find help for my daughter.  She was diagnosed when she was ten and now she's sixteen and we are not on track yet.  What a waiste of time.  Without going through all the history and blah blah stuff, I will try to avoid that by asking a question.  What do you do for adhd when meds are not available?  How does one cope? - they self medicate!!!

I don't know how personal we should get in a public site as this but here I will open up anyway.  Its not as if I would say anything shocking anyway.  As I am finding out it is not unusual for teens to smoke cannabis.  As I am seeing many of my daughter's peers endulge in the act of smoking or drinking.  As I remember, many, many years ago, that was also going on in my teens .  Teens experiment and party.  I am blessed that my teen has the set morals to avoid the chemical drugs.  And her view on alcohol is -its not for her.  But, she thinks that plants are natural and thats okay so, cannabis is her choice.    Not sure about it all but I have to keep an open eye to what's going on.  Oh, and she smokes cigerettes, not a regular habit, just when someone gives her one.  After asking more, I realize that she has the habit but at other's expense.

Today we went to the pyschiatrist to see about her drugs.  Even though we have been very honest with the doctor from the beginning, we got the big kick in the face.  I don't understand how a doctor can do this.  This doctor knew that my daughter smoked cannabis from the start.  In june we got a script for adderal and an appointment for today.  Today the doctor says that my daughter has a drug problem and is stopping to see her.  What a waiste for me, that 's all I could think. 

I worked so hard to find somewhere for help.  I thought help was on its way.  Really, all I keep getting is the runaround.  I am so upset that I don't even know where to begin to explain or tell or even ask, now!  What do I do now?  How do I help my daughter?  I guess this could be a good time to let go!  It's her problem, let her figure it out?  As a parent is that possible to just let go and have her work on her own issues. 

My daughter's father has adhd and self medicates with smoking. (did you know that smoking cigerettes is a stimulant for adhd but at what a cost  for the rest of ones health.)  He has an addictive personality and hasn't drank alcohol in over ten years.  The doctor feels that my daughter has an addiction to cigerettes, drugs and alcohol and wants to do sample drug tests and insists that she now has to be clean and sober inorder to take the adhd drugs (but why now and how did she come to that conclusion?).  Where has that doctor been, not listening to us!  I was so shocked to hear the doctor's words.   What the heck, maybe my expectations for the doctor was too high.  I thought that a pschiatrist would do more then hand out drugs and not have a plan of treatment.  Why give us a perscription in June and now say this? 

Anyway, we are done with that doctor and feel it was such a waiste of money, time and energy.  We are back to no support and what now?  I feel so overwhelmed with the sense of hopelessness.

Now for your part, your comments.  What do you think and what's your experience for suggestions?  Thanks for your input.

How do I know what is adhd and what is normal teenager?  My daughter is having troubles and I don't know how to help.  She hates me and we have done so much counselling and help seeking in the last six months.  I have worked so hard to try to understand.  I just can't understand why I'm doing all this work and all I hear from my daughter is "I want".  There is no give on her part.  I see her try but, as quickly as I see an effort, she stops.   

Please tell me, anyone that has adhd,  how do I know the difference of teenager troubles or adhd?

How do I know if she has ODD or is just being a teen.  I am so confused at this moment, I can't tell what to do.  She expects so much from me, I am in debt and she wants me to support her fun because its her summer.  I tell her to get a job.  I just find my daughter without a true sense of reality.

Please comment because I don't know what else to say:

I have the month of August to get through.  I work for the school board as support staff and get summers off without pay.  I really enjoy having a chance to be off for a solid two months of the year.  It makes for budget concerns to get through the two months but I will take that struggle any time for the time off.  I make projects for myself to try to organize us but, I always seem to be taking baby steps.  I had high hopes for this summer and it looks like we can say lots has been done but there is so much more to do.  I have learned to celebrate the sucesses and to not worry about whats still to do.  Anyway, this is not why I need help.  I always have struggles with my daughter and I thought if I wrote in my blog people could help me with suggestions or a reality check.

I realize that teenagers are not easy at the best of times but I have trouble relating to my daughter and her teen years.  I look at the friends she has and wonder how does she attract those type of people or are all teens like that?  When I look at my daughter and the friends that I happen to meet, I really feel a sense of fear for them.  Where are their morals and sense of boundries?  I have heard stories about the rebellious teen years but never thought I could experience such difficulty.  By the way, I have a son, aged 24 now, and he never gave me this grief and he has ADHD!  But then he doesn't have ODD attatched to the ADHD.  I had anger management issues to help him through when he was between 9 and 12 years old.  I have had many people compliment on how wonderful a person my son is.  A hard worker, fun to be around, kind, respectful and a good sense of self and responsiblilty.  I am greatful that he has a good base in his personality and is doing well for himself.  Don't get me wrong he's not perfect but I don't have to worry about how he will survive.  He finished his schooling and has a good work ethic.

Now to my problem, sorry for the long prelude but I seem to feel a need to explain myself first.  How do I know the difference between ADHD and normal teen issues? Gwen, my daughter is so like her dad, who also has ADHD but will not do anything about it because he doesn't believe that ADHD is real.  I think he's learning different.   That is another blog question!

Now, this is my problem.  I have put my daughter in camp for most of July.  We went to the cabin this last week to get away, as a family. And now we are back in the city and I have the rest of August to deal with.  My daughter has all this free time to find trouble.  One of her friends yesterday, took his mom's car, without permission and let another friend drive it.  They smashed the car and now he's on the run from his mom, worried about her anger.  (I try to be open with my daughter so that she could come to me, no matter what if she was in trouble, knowing that I would listen and not show my anger. I try to guide her through solutions, setting an example to find a wise move rather then run away.)  Its hard for me to hear all the stuff that kids do and I feel biased.  It makes me feel that she is not responsible because she hangs out with these kids.  My big concern is, do all teens push boundries of respect for others and their belongings?  Is this something that is a stronger problem with this generation or have I forgotten how teens are?  I battle daily with my daughter's lack of respect, what happened to morals?  I am frustrated that I don't feel a sense of safety in my home.  Her dad hears this stuff and wants to forbid her friends from coming around our home.  As a parent we all want the best for our kids but I find it difficult to trust that she will find a good path to walk on in life.  I know that I do my best to help her but  I just feel a loss of the ability to maintain boundries for her as she works on becoming an adult.  I am tested continuously  by her actions that my home is not a safe place with respect. 

How do I tell the difference of my daughter's problems?  What's because of ADHD or just being a teenager.  Sometimes I think my daughter is trying to live her life balancing on a four legged chair thats missing one leg.  Oh, I need to let you know that I have just started my daughter back on medication.  We are at the stage of trying to find a good fit for her again.  Meds are so hard for me, its a big struggle to find whats good for her and are we doing the right thing. 

Please, let me take a moment and fill you in with some background of our situation.  In these past two years we had so many issues to deal with.  Not to bore you but she turned 16 last December and now thinks that she can do anything she wants and we can't stop her.  She got that idea from a police officer that told her we weren't responsible for her actions under the parents responsibility act once she was sixteen.  She thought our home was too strict and wanted to go to a group home to get away from us.  It was the hardest thing for me to do because I knew that she is so nieve and had no idea what she was doing(I have been told that her maturity level is around nine to eleven years old thats inside a sixteen year old body).  I had to let her go and sign herself away from us last Feburary.  I lost all control.  Her dad and I went to parent support meetings.  We started family counselling sessions and are still atttending them from the agency.  The group home came to the conclusion that we had to take her back or they would send her to a shelter.  They were not finding sucess with her and that she was disruptive to the functioning of the home and their work for the other residents.  We took her back in the begining of June.  The group home would not consent to start giving her medication for her ADHD. (some problems with their liability  around ADHD drugs and street drugs).  I saw that we really needed to find a place to begin with her and we started her back on meds in June, with her consent.  That year was a total right off for her schooling.  On the good swing of things (as all of us need to see the positives) we saw that she had a reality check for a short time.  She saw that she was wrong about how strict we were and the rules at the group home were abundant.  As you have already read, she went to camp for most of July. 

NOW, I am at my problem again.  Today, I feel that she is back to being wild and doesn't want to follow our simple house rules. Just to let you know the house rules:  1) always let us know where you are and how to reach you.  (she can leave a message on the message board on our fridge or a phone call message)  2)respect others and their things, first ask permission.  3) clean up after yourself.  I have been told that these rules are reasonable and any community living situation would accept these rules to be basic living rules.  Sorry for the distractions but I find myself never telling enough information when telling a story.  I seem to start in the middle go back to the front and then continue on somewhere back in the middle.  If I am confusing it maybe my dislexia getting in the way, always wanting to start at the end and not giving all the details.

Here we go - Please if you have any suggestions for me and how to understand whats ADHD and whats teenager issues.  I would appreciate your response.  Thanks for getting this far and for reading my blog.  I will be looking forward to replys.