Just checking in to say hello. How are things with you? I've noticed that you haven't been around and wonder if you would accept my friend request? Hope all is well and your life isn't too busy to come by for a visit to adhd world. cheers.
I just read your comment to my 'Just Curious...' post; and, I have a strong feeling that if we lived in nearby communities it would a lot of fun.... :)
My 11 year old has ADD too, and one of the things I struggle with is helping my ex-husband understand what it means. For example, the other day, she called him from school and said that she had forgotten to tell him that she was out of lunch funds, and to ask if he would bring a check to school. He refused, telling her that she had to learn to be more responsible. She ended up eating a cold cheese sandwich.
My point is, that while, yes...children need to learn responsibility, she didn't need to be made to feel bad about the fact that she forgot, and that she was being punished for forgetting. It's not like it would have taken him more than 10 minutes to run a check up there for her, and then help her come up with a way that she would not forget in the future.
He refuses to work "with" the ADD, and insists on treating her like our non-ADD children, and it drives me insane! I remember being made to feel lazy and stupid by my parents, and I do NOT want that for my daughter.
I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago. Since then I have been trying to learn and understand whatever I can about the condition. Fact is though, that for whatever "reason", I did what I did and it cost me so many friends, so much failure, 3 wives and all the self esteem that I had when I was so young. I have a 10 year old son who has been diagnosed a ADD and I've sworn that no matter what else I do, I will make sure that he understands what it is all about and what he can expect will be "normal" for him. I'll teach him all the things that no one did for me because they only labeled me a ne'er do well... an intelligent one, but one none-the-less! I'm looking for my old self esteem bt the more I learn, the more I feel like I was robbed..
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